tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post7793992159815541382..comments2024-03-07T04:01:00.008-04:00Comments on miss fancy pants (the bride): part of the family pt. 2Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-66507807205769058342010-03-20T09:22:27.462-03:002010-03-20T09:22:27.462-03:00Oh she sounds a little nutty haha just kidding but...Oh she sounds a little nutty haha just kidding but I would just keep trying to include her as best you can. You're not going to make everyone happy but you can make the most imporant person smile; and that is YOU :) xxRhiannon Bossehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08154162917516834299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-60715242922772098762010-03-19T20:52:23.358-03:002010-03-19T20:52:23.358-03:00She sounds irrational, which is bad. But you have ...She sounds irrational, which is bad. But you have to explain to her that school comes first. Maybe if you email her wedding things you like in your spare time that will tide her over until you can go shopping together? Also, that way she will know your taste.Cupcake Weddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02808981371272030390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-31461279553937839972010-03-19T14:08:25.473-03:002010-03-19T14:08:25.473-03:00So sorry to hear about the issues with FMIL! I agr...So sorry to hear about the issues with FMIL! I agree with what everyone else has been saying about Mr. FP - maybe he can talk with his mother about how busy you are with school! <br />O<br />I also know how good my FMIL feels even when I send her a one sentence email with a picture or a link and saying, "I am really liking _____, what do you think about ________?" Even if it's just an quick email updating her on something you & Mr. FP talked about or something you saw online that you like - she will feel included and it won't take up too much of your time! (By the way - I totally feel your pain of being a student & a bride).Nicole & Brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01718278660073483269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-60749404270538074382010-03-19T12:18:17.616-03:002010-03-19T12:18:17.616-03:00I'd lean on Mr. FP for this one. If this is j...I'd lean on Mr. FP for this one. If this is just how his mother is, then there might not be much you can do to change her behavior. But if all this is a little out of character or is only coming up in relation to the wedding, then maybe there's an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. If that's the case, Mr. FP should address it, not you.<br /><br />When I ran into some problems with my FFIL trying to control our wedding, the Mister nipped it in the bud. He knows his Dad better than I do, and even though what he said to his Dad was no different than what I would have said to him, the fact that it was his child saying it to him I think makes all the difference.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17009143978954483152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-75689111016115649612010-03-19T12:08:54.830-03:002010-03-19T12:08:54.830-03:00Sorry to hear that you are having such a rough tim...Sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time with your FMIL. It sounds like no matter how much you involve her, she will never be happy with what you give her. <br /><br />I agree with what SG said above about maybe having your fiance sit down with his mother and explain to her that you are busy with school and how things are going to work with the wedding.<br /><br />I hope it all works out in the end and your FMIL begins to understand that you are busy concentrating on your schooling. Good luck!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18208084906252104079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-89758301880503083792010-03-19T10:38:45.494-03:002010-03-19T10:38:45.494-03:00Maybe try looking at the rehearsal dinner as a par...Maybe try looking at the rehearsal dinner as a party that is being thrown FOR you, not a party that is all about you? It sounds like the RD is all about her, and that's okay - just realize it's like being given a gift that you hate and hang up on your wall anyway. Maybe you can have an intimate lunch instead? Also, explain to her that you will be leaving the RD early enough to get plenty of sleep before the big day - she should be understanding. <br />It sounds to me like she's being really childish about the deposit. Why can't Mr. FP drive up there and put down the deposit with her? <br />Also, can you give her a wedding-related project? Maybe figuring out alter decorations, the guestbook, or something else? <br />Good luck with your exams - focus on getting through school! That's the most important thing.E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16536368785477368322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-85332958091983234952010-03-19T10:29:18.824-03:002010-03-19T10:29:18.824-03:00That does suck, I guess I would just suggest tryin...That does suck, I guess I would just suggest trying to keep her in the loop more, meaning sending her emails or call her when you've decided something about the wedding or have an idea about the wedding just so she feels included and not left in the dark. Maybe have your fiance sit down with her separately and reiterate what your schedule is like right now and that once things pick up she'll be more involved. <br /><br />I left the rehearsal dinner up to my MIL and haven't really given her much direction on it. I figure that can be her event to plan and keep her busy. The wedding is what I really care about not the rehearsal. Maybe just let her have the rehearsal to do her thing....it will take a lot off your plate as well. <br /><br />Good luck!Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356655617475615318noreply@blogger.com