tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post848179239202152620..comments2024-03-07T04:01:00.008-04:00Comments on miss fancy pants (the bride): the mythology of marriage?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-19955242890007762032010-02-20T17:25:28.863-04:002010-02-20T17:25:28.863-04:00I agree with you. For us, getting married was the...I agree with you. For us, getting married was the next logical step, and it is something we both wanted, but we're also both very aware that it is really not going to affect our relationship. I mean, we've already been living together for years, and we act like a married couple already, and if for some reason we were to break up, both of us would consider it on par with divorce. But I want to be recognized as a couple that's devoted to each other, and I very much want the legal benefits that come with marriage, and yeah, I want an excuse to throw a massive party where people look at me and go "ooo, pretty". But I also want to get married because it's traditional, and hey, why not? I like having the security that we know this is something we're committing to for our whole lives. It's nice. But I do also agree with a lot of the points in that article. I really wish domestic partners had more legal rights because I could do with my fiance's health insurance right now. Anyway, I understand why some people don't want to get married, and I think that should be recognized as a viable choice, but I also think there's nothing wrong with telling someone you want to spend your life with them which is really what marriage is to me.nicoliolihpfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13458212893830870874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-91781441677222537742010-02-17T20:38:38.094-04:002010-02-17T20:38:38.094-04:00I think you were right in saying that marriage is ...I think you were right in saying that marriage is what you make it.<br /><br />People just need to make sure that theirs and their partner's view of marriage is the same.Miss Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831964957323606168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-17899240896928470752010-02-17T20:25:48.009-04:002010-02-17T20:25:48.009-04:00@Darci: That's a great idea. I've heard of...@Darci: That's a great idea. I've heard of "Committed" (from Sara at 2000dollarwedding) but I haven't yet gotten a chance to read it. I'm sure it would rouse a whole lot of great conversation.miss fancy pants (the bride)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11575834126606152875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-78898179306364734242010-02-17T16:44:02.725-04:002010-02-17T16:44:02.725-04:00Such a great post! Have you read Elizabeth Gilber...Such a great post! Have you read Elizabeth Gilbert's new book "Committed?" It addresses a lot of these same thoughts, and looks at the history of marriage. I was actually thinking of starting a virtual book club of sorts on the blog to discuss it...what do you think?Darcihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12848686274172206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8913308670961435636.post-85675117865091816252010-02-17T12:55:00.484-04:002010-02-17T12:55:00.484-04:00I never wanted to get married remember. Kick in th...I never wanted to get married remember. Kick in the butt. Thing is, I don't know what I think (urgh I know). I am pondering this question as I wed "what is a successful marraige?" apparently lasting is not considered it these days. In order to have a successful marraige shouldn't you know how a successful marraige is defined? Probably. I believe in it. In it's endurance as an instuition. In it's political power. In its strength. Maybe the question is what is marriage to me? It's everything. It's proclaiming to my friends/family and facebook that I love this man. To remember that I made an oath in front of family, friends, God. To have the courage to be myself with someone else all the time and completely. To love someone else and to grow with them. At the end of the day, that is the questions you need to answer to yourself. The rest, whatever the world says, is just white noise.<br /><br /><br />Great articleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com